Disagreement makes a good avenue to explore differences, not to eradicate them

Dear reader,

For today’s revise moment,

A difficult challenge between individuals and cultures has oftentimes been the extremity of differences and the conflicts that can arise out of this contrast. A good incentive for the globalization movement might partly be due the inability of humanity to experience Agape, the most unconditional form of love according to the Greek meaning of it. It is not to be confused with brotherly love, romantic love or bloodline love or any of the other acts or forms of love. It might be called the highest form of love, since it has no conditions placed on it, and it sees and grasps the ‘otherness of others‘ (Druids), understands the ‘other’ and accepts the ‘other’ by the discipline of finding ‘unity within diversity‘ (MT).

This form of love goes beyond Maya, neurotics or false personas, ideologies, religion, skin color or anything else which can be an incentive for segregation rather then being a tad more inclusive. Agape doesn’t respond with feelings of revenge, anger, hatred, jealousy, radicalism or fundamentalism, it responds by trying to see and understand the other in all his, hers or its complexities and in so doing finds a way to love even the most harsh and aggressive edges of the nature of humanity and beyond. The power lays within going beyond the falseness and harshness of a culture or person and then too connect with that which is true in ones own being as a reflected spark of inner truth. Ralph Waldo Emerson used to say “Who you are speaks so loudly, I cannot understand a word you are saying”, therefore, implying that he doesn’t take insults, offences or attacks personal, but connects with that which is true and just beyond the layers of dust. Human natural flaws are essential for the sake of growth or evolution, because how can one evolve without showing some flaws, how can one learn without making some mistakes? Therefore by gaining a deep understanding of the human psyche and its potential flaws, which are also dwelling among each one of us, one can gain a sense of ease and acceptance towards others, even the most harsh ones. This is where things like projection or casting ones own shadows upon others come into play. Not to say that ‘other-observation’ is useless, because it can help the ‘other’ to see things he or she doesn’t saw him or herself, but a lot of current hatred that is going on is because of projection and limited understandings in how social systems function.

The idea of an one world culture or to unite all under one set of policies is then a false idea that isn’t sustainable. In order to do this you have to use a top-down program of indoctrination and propaganda in order have a ‘cultural control’ by using ‘soft controls’ like induced guilt systems to manipulate so called ‘good’ behavior, a common enemy (the criminal who does not stand up against the socially acceptable norms and values) and certain feelings of solidarity and social cohesion because of this. Plato called this ‘the noble lie‘ in which one tries to manipulate ethical or noble behavior by using unethical means; a noble lie. As one can clearly observe in the world right now, is that a top-down approach is only effective on the short term if it is effective at all. Eventually people can always use their free will, and always have the choice to make up their own minds despite the effectiveness of the cultural control or guilt society like , for example, in Japan (from what I understand of it so far). It is really a misfortune that we have come this far in forcing to eradicate certain differences in individuals and cultures instead of learning to at least tolerate, but also to accept it, appreciate it, maybe even learn to love it. Great cultural heritages are lost because the people in the culture aren’t allowed to live out their own paths of self-determination anymore.

The problem here is a lack of trust and confidence in the nobility of the soul or the inherent goodness people have despite their shortcomings and natural flaws,. After all, we are just human. By giving people the freedom and courtesy to make mistakes, do devious acts and let them experience the deep pain that comes by hurting others, you take a laissez faire approach and only come in when they ask you. It is basically the golden rule of non-interference, because how arrogant is it to think what is good or just for others in other cultures? How can you judge well if you don’t have any experience or knowledge of it? (hence, the reason why I would love feedback and input on these articles btw).

That being said; “Disagreement makes a good avenue to explore differences, not to eradicate them”.

It is easy to try to force or control the ‘other’ in following your footsteps, it is much harder to love them that much so you can set them free, and let them follow their own path.

Because it is extremely difficult and unrealistic to always be in a state in which you can experience Agape, especially in times of social unrest and stress. I think it is important and necessary to show some patience, mercy and forgiveness for the human flaws that are expressed so vividly in today’s time and age of cultural and individual decadence.

I am happy to have feedback and input on my writing,

And thanks for reading,

Kees Berg

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