We repress the parts we don’t like about ourselves and we express those we like

Dear reader,

“We re-press the parts we don’t like about ourselves and we ex-press those we like”

This topic is something I often highlight on my website for the sake of wholeness, authenticity understanding, acceptance or at least tolerance in dealing with ourselves, our ‘shadows’ and those of other people. Hiding our shadows behind the closet is, off course, a logical thing to do out of the fear of losing reputation, esteem, privileges and whatever else one can be afraid of.

However, in terms of being whole with ourselves and others, I wholeheartedly disagree with this approach in establishing relationships and, especially, in creating sustainable relationships. Wearing a mask or façade might work on the short term, but will definitely come short on the long term. We all have our own dragons to fight, our own inner battles to conquer, and this is a very natural part of being human in my opinion. Then the function of crime is that it gives us contrast and polarity so as to find more refined decisions to increase the quality of our lives and our loved ones. Therefore, what the church has done by inflicting guilt and shame upon those who are having more struggles with their, lets say, more criminal parts, is not really helping anyone, except maybe, again, a noble lie, a sophisticated political instrument to fight symptoms not causes.

If we want to fight causes instead of symptoms, we have to go deep in the belly of the whale, the dark night of the soul(MT). It is not by fighting the shadows, or using religion as an excuse, or by saying that we are perfect, but through re-integrating them, that we can achieve self-mastery in my opinion.

The more we re-press about ourselves, the more likely it will erupt like a volcano sooner or later, re in Latin means ‘again’, so it will bubble up again in our consciousness. The mask will just stay what it is, just a mask, it can never hold up and it is not sustainable. By being courageous and facing our deepest fears, we can enable ourselves TO CHOOSE, instead of letting the lesser parts of ones psyche act themselves out unconsciously, which makes this world highly dangerous if you ask me.

This is why I don’t see myself fit as having the quality to impose a moral judgement upon others and why others do not have that authority as well. I would much rather prefer to say that a person has unleashed a dragon, and has to face the consequences of that, which often results in suffering.

Hope it was an interesting read!

Feel free to give feedback,

Cheers,

Kees

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