Taking things for granted

“Taking things for granted”

Today’s revisement is about differentiating between taking things for granted and/or living more in a detached fashion towards material pursuits. Or as Alan Watts coined it; “Be IN it, not OF it”, wat betekent dat je er deel vanuit maakt zonder er te gehecht aan te zijn” Or in English, it means to me that one can partake rather then endure (MT) a certain participating lifestyle within ones society. Often times, we are too attached to a certain socioeconomic system, hence the reason why a desired change is often hard to implement. One of the services of this website would, therefore, also be the ability to be a change agent in ones society. I, as example, are not an ascetic, while I do have periods of fasting when I deem that to be necessary. I could be more typified being hedonistic, I do really enjoy life. So that being said, the role of the change agent is archetypal I think in the sense that one can hold it or intuit it, but not own it all the time. In a matter of fact, accessing certain archetypes outlined in books like the hero’s journey, among other titles I have shared on this website, is temporarily, sometimes just momentarily. Hereby, also arguing that the hero’s journey is a limited truth. There are more archetypes to be explored in ones spiritual journey.

Back on topic; Taking stuff for granted is more of a weakness then that it is a strength for me. This is due mainly because life does not tend to be as predictable as we often want it to be. Western society oftentimes sees reality in a linear way and, therefore, thinks that it is predictable, controllable and measurable.

This is, however, only one part of the coin, and reality is much more vast, complex and expansive then that paradigm can give credit for in the scientific community. Life is just as cyclical as that is is linear and quantum physics is already exploring how little man actually knows and how unpredictable and random small particles actually are.  

Being attached to particular outcomes in life can, therefore, create great disappointment, despair and emotional instability in ones being. Not accepting the fact that you cannot control every outcome in your life can create a lot of disturbance and frustration. The future is like the weather, we can train ourselves to analyse, observe and predict it, but its too complex to fathom, harness it and bend it to our favoring. This is something strong Druids can only disobey too I believe.

The future is like dry sand slipping between our fingers, one can grasp it but not hold it. Life would be very doll and boring if it really was that predictable as one often wants it to be. The unpredictability of life keeps us on our feet and keeps us sharp and flexible when one might have to make some sharp turns. Accepting that lifetimes are not always fully in control feels like dropping down a heavy weight from one’s shoulders. It feels like relying on someone whom you can completely trust, and this alleviates a lot of frustration, stress and anxiety in ones life. By simply letting go of that hard-shelved brain of ours.

Two great strengths in order to cope with the randomness of life are flexibility and detachment, of which both are promoted in most Eastern philosophies. The Yoga and the Buddhism traditions have great emphasize on these strengths, since it can truly help one in finding more stability, centering and equilibrium in the hurricanes of life.

One can easily become attached to certain patterns that has been shown true in the collective memory for a number of times. For example, you tend to take it for granted that you care givers take care of you, since they have done it during your whole childhood. You might even see it as a certainty that they will always be their for you. However, a dead person is to no use for anyone, and when you care givers die, you will face a difficult reality check if you took their care for granted. Another example might be expecting validation from your spouse, since she or he has always supported you when you needed a pat on the back.

That history repeats itself is often true, because many people make the same mistakes and are stuck in patterns without being aware of it. This doesn’t mean that you can take things for granted since it is always possible someone can change their minds. So this is where flexibility and detachment comes into play. If it turns out that the expected isn’t fulfilled, one can prevent suffering by being detached, without assumptions or demands, and being flexible in ones responses. This way you can quickly turn a different corner without having all the feelings of disappointment attachment tends to give.

Hope these articles are helpful,

Happy to hear suggestions and feedback,

Kees

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