During my journey in China, I have worked for a very ambitious company in the housing industry. A rapidly evolving industry that is very competitive and tricky!

So you can imagine the tremendous amount of work pressure the employees had to go through, let alone the general work ethos of the Chinese people. I gotta tell you that this experience was one that blew my mind! People had to work 16 hour loads while having children!

Today I want to share the danger of alienation in these kind of situations and why you can become stuck in your development when you find yourself in this survival mode. Alienation is the progress of loosing yourself in a particular kind of activity. You literately become so entangled with the ‘thing’ you are doing that you loose your sense of ‘self’. You become the ‘thing’. This leads to stagnation and limits your quality of life.

First, the model you can use to identify your current development of character:

Source: http://www.valuescentre.com/culture/?sec=barrett_model

We all have to go through these stages during our life. More often then not people do not follow through all these stages because we stay at a certain level. Sometimes we even fall back into full physical dependency when we lose our jobs or get ill etc. The challenge is that you maintain the level of development by anchoring it with solid behavioral patterns. It is common sense that you can only serve people unconditionally when you have first met your physical, emotional and mental needs. But what I see is that a lot of people tell themselves the story that they always have to survive in their lives. They confuse their ‘needs’ with ‘wants’. You do not need a lot of stuff to survive in a modern world!

This video gives you some more information about the topic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XWC0JwdW_5o

If you can recognize this feeling of being ‘stuck’ in life, I want to invite you to do the following:

  • Identify on which layer you are lacking. Do you need better health or relationships to meet your needs?
  • Fulfill those essential needs and anchor them in your daily routines
  • When anchored you can now move to the next level in your development

This is what I mean with anchoring:

Source: http://www.hansenint.com/skin/frontend/default/hansen/images/whyhansen/quality/PlanDoCheckAct.jpg

Fulfilling these needs becomes a daily behavioral pattern. It becomes your new ‘standard of living. The main reason why people fall back is because they do not know how to anchor their new lives properly. They fall back into old patterns and lack the wills power to maintain their new level of living. We love comfort and pleasure, but this if often times the reason why we remain stuck at a current level. It’s like climbing a mountain, just enjoy climbing instead of reaching the top!

When you are at a moment in life where you can make a new change or move to a new level of consciousness, go for it! Don’t fall into the trap of comfort and pleasure. Embrace the process of change and new paths to take in your life!

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