This article dials back into older posts about the differences between knowing what you want and what you need. I wrote more about that right here;
These two themes could be very distinct concepts and could portray themselves in different lifestyles across the globe in different cultures. Behind all of these different kinds of lifestyles, personalities and needs, lays a certain framework by which mutual understanding can occur more likely. What one really needs in order to execute certain objectives within the ‘school of life’, could be very different then what one craves, desires or want rather then making a whole 4 year or 10 year plan or whatever. Personally, I tend to stay buzzing with making plans and working on in-house and out-house projects, however, I know that most often then not, it is better to let things happen as well. So, therefore, I do make plans with a laisséz faire attitude. Oftentimes, all those desires, ambitions and goals are dismantling the flow of life in a way that material possessions and the fetishism of commodities can become an annoying distraction so to say. It could also be that such things are not giving the same pleasure and joy, which could then become, let’s say, a positive catalyzer of change, to pursuit other means of staying happy, strong, whole, thriving and being an inspiration in ones own development. Hereby implying, as readers of this website probably know, is that happiness is a state of being (MT). In my experience I would agree, which makes the ‘carpe diem attitude’ only more tempting in the way that when one realises this inner state of being, the world opens up for him, thou or her in a way that could be described as magical or just mentally liberating. By needing less and less to be functional, productive and at the same time happy, is a very potent state of being, I would say. Increasing this so called ‘strength of inventiveness’ while at the same time remaining ‘grounded’ and happy is key to a wealthy and healthy life to my experience of it. In the end, what creates the real inherent value are the sources of creativity, in and of, itself. So where language is the tool I use, for example, the inspiration and creativity comes more through being highly visual. I would argue that even in older age (25- till death) one can be able to make new nervous system connections by using a holistic learning approach while at the same time remaining calculated and in control while working on a well-rounded development. The phenomena of Confusion could occur when there exists a large group of ‘followers’ and when there is not a correct ‘levelling’ in place when the development of an individual(s) is too broad so that it creates cognitive dissonance within the group. Just like a particular individual can be way ahead in a certain field and being in that place and time in which it is hard or still impossible to be able to share the newfound ‘boons’ with the rest of the field. So I think with some areas of expertise or just one mastery, one could still position themselves with value on the so called labour market. Only having one expertise and perhaps one you do not feel so excited about, is probably a recipe for doomsday or just a call for a midlife crisis.
With the above being stated, I would argue that the severity of a midlife crisis could be prevented when one gained already a lot of self-knowledge during younger years. This can then be used as ‘fertile soil’ so to speak on which a refined character and sophisticated life can emerge. Without having this deep inner knowing intact, the soil is not valid, and, therefore, there will be greater challenges in later life when questions of purpose, meaning and death become more relevant.
However, when one can realize during younger years that all that is needed is provided for in the sense that all that is necessary to fulfill ones truest desires is provided for. So even when ones biggest passion is architecture, one can always start small and start drawing or practicing other skills necessary besides the huge amount of materials needed to finally build a castle, a boat or a house for the sake of the argument.
Especially by knowing that true mastery of a particular craft could take a lifetime or perhaps more lifetimes to really become a master in ones chosen fields of interest. Therefore, starting early on in life with proper initiations could be a great outcome in having to deal with the general theme of finding oneself stuck in a certain career path that after all was not what they were looking for. Also this meta-view on development could be calming in the sense that one does not have to become a so called expert within a rigid academic or learning path of 4 or 6 years, let alone 10. It might even take one 100 years or more to finally get the hang of it so to speak, for those climbers out there. Why push yourself to annihilation if the bigger you is infinite anyway? Like your gonna do a kundalini course and think being able to master that following through for a few months? Or you think your gonna have dragon breath after doing a Reiki online course? It’s utter bullshit to think in mastery along such terms of shortsightedness, even if that means 10 years. Some skills might take 100 and 100’s of years of practice and integration to perhaps master them, hence it’s G.O.L.D.(e).N. to have a certain deep commitment to certain areas of interest knowing that those sparks of enthusiasm, passion and curiosity can be used as resonances for remembrance in the search for mastery and self-exploration.
So rather then eagerly start climbing that career ladder, why not take it easy and spending lots of time in the garden of life (Robert Bly) before really pushing or rallying for whatever (noble) cause one deems to be his, hers or thou’s.
More on this for a later time.
I think that, especially during a pandemic, the economy is even more of a war-economy then it already was. Obviously during martial law it might make sense to go full spartan code for the sake of abundance for all.
So its gonna continue being a ‘dirty rat race’ with trading freedoms and personal authenticity for short lasting money and uncertain pension plans, or we can do our best in using less and giving more of the stuff we really want to give to the world.
This is one of the reasons why I still like to maintain this blog and all the creative aspects that come with writing/typing or maintaining a blog/website to begin with.
Share me your experiences around this concept and how it works in your life.
So that we might learn in co-creation.